By Rodney D. Robertson

  A mistake some people have made in relationships is connecting with the wrong person.  An even greater tragedy is calling people friends that are not friends. Why, because many times we call people friends that don’t even have a working definition of what a friend is. Now if they don’t know what a friend is, how can he or she be one to you? When someone has a working knowledge and a clear understanding of what something is, he will have the ability to walk it out or manifest what he has an understanding of.
 
Being connected to the right person whether in marriage, friendships, or business is vital to your success in life.  In fact, I am willing to go as far to say that all good things flow through good relationships. With that being said, the first place you should check in your life when things aren’t going right is your relationships.  Why, because a good relationship should add to your life and not subtract from it. A good relationship should bring out the best in you and not the worst.
 
Is it easy building healthy relationships and connecting with the right people? Absolutely not! I will be the first to admit that it isn’t easy.  However, with the help of God and learning from the experiences of connecting with the wrong people, you gain relationship wisdom and a greater appreciation for good relationships that are drama free.
 
What is a good relationship?  A good relationship is a relationship where both parties’ relational needs are met. It is synergistic. It is productive. Though a good relationship requires work, it doesn’t feel like work. It is not a drag or a burden to you.  Proverbs 27:17 CEV says, “As iron sharpens iron, so friends sharpen the minds of each other.”  I like that verse because it shows how having the right relationship will make you BETTER.  A good friend will sharpen your mind and cause you to see things that you didn’t see before. I called those “Aha moments.” 
 
Beginning today, I want you to look at your relationships and determine if they are productive and good for you.  Quit wasting time on people that are not challenging you to become better.  Don’t be so quick to call someone a friend. Give it some time. He or she may not be staying in your life anyway.  Remember, as you grow, so should your relationships.                                

Your Relationship Coach,

 Rodney D. Robertson

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