By Rodney D. Robertson

  A mistake some people have made in relationships is connecting with the wrong person.  An even greater tragedy is calling people friends that are not friends. Why, because many times we call people friends that don’t even have a working definition of what a friend is. Now if they don’t know what a friend is, how can he or she be one to you? When someone has a working knowledge and a clear understanding of what something is, he will have the ability to walk it out or manifest what he has an understanding of.
 
Being connected to the right person whether in marriage, friendships, or business is vital to your success in life.  In fact, I am willing to go as far to say that all good things flow through good relationships. With that being said, the first place you should check in your life when things aren’t going right is your relationships.  Why, because a good relationship should add to your life and not subtract from it. A good relationship should bring out the best in you and not the worst.
 
Is it easy building healthy relationships and connecting with the right people? Absolutely not! I will be the first to admit that it isn’t easy.  However, with the help of God and learning from the experiences of connecting with the wrong people, you gain relationship wisdom and a greater appreciation for good relationships that are drama free.
 
What is a good relationship?  A good relationship is a relationship where both parties’ relational needs are met. It is synergistic. It is productive. Though a good relationship requires work, it doesn’t feel like work. It is not a drag or a burden to you.  Proverbs 27:17 CEV says, “As iron sharpens iron, so friends sharpen the minds of each other.”  I like that verse because it shows how having the right relationship will make you BETTER.  A good friend will sharpen your mind and cause you to see things that you didn’t see before. I called those “Aha moments.” 
 
Beginning today, I want you to look at your relationships and determine if they are productive and good for you.  Quit wasting time on people that are not challenging you to become better.  Don’t be so quick to call someone a friend. Give it some time. He or she may not be staying in your life anyway.  Remember, as you grow, so should your relationships.                                

Your Relationship Coach,

 Rodney D. Robertson

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It becomes impossible for a couple to live with each other and they start thinking to get separated. However, before taking a final decision, the couple should try to save their relationships as it is quite difficult and boring to live alone. There are several ways to save marriage that may work.

When you realize that your married life is in danger, you start looking for the options to save your marriage. First of all, many couples talk with each other and try to understand the problem. It is the best option to look for the solutions by mutual understanding. The couple should express an intense passion for each other because if you are successful in developing love for each other, then other problems can be immediately solved.

If it doesn’t work and the conflicts continue, then they try some other options. Some couples seek out an advice from the friends, family or religious leaders. But the couple should think over this advice whether it is appropriate or not as wrong advice can destroy the relationships.

Many couples prefer to participate in the marital counseling which may be one of the effective ways to save marriage. Both the partners should attend the counseling which can be an effective tool to improve their relationships. The couples should openly discuss about their marriage problems to get an appropriate solution. Marriage counseling can help the couples to improve their communication skills.

It may also help to uncover some other problems or issues, find out the differences and understand the troubles of couple. It offers a good opportunity to the couples to share their feelings and helps to clear the misunderstanding. Many people are successful in resolving their marriage problems after participating in couple retreats or marriage seminars.

Along with these options, some couples choose a trial marriage separation. It may be among the helpful ways to save marriage to solve the problems as it gives an opportunity to both the partners to experience the feelings of being separated before taking any final decision. The major advantage of trial separation is that it is reversible.

The main purpose of trial separation is to develop the skills of resolving problems before moving back together and working on improving the relationship.

You may adopt one of these ways to save marriage and make your life paradise with your loving partner again.

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If you are looking for ways on how to save a Christian marriage, then it is important for you to know that Christianity recommends resolving the problems in the marital life and saving a marriage. Faithlessness is not allowed in the Christian marriage and it is considered as a great sin.

There may be some problems in marriage which may be due to extra-martial affairs, adultery, infidelity, physical, verbal or emotional abuse. However, separation or divorce is not recommended in Christian marriage. Divorce can affect the life of both the partners at physical, emotional, financial, legal, spiritual and family levels.

If you are facing the same situation and wondering about how to save a Christian marriage, then you need not worry as you have various options. First of all, you need to talk to your partner and try to understand the problems in your married life. It is always better to seek the solutions by mutual understanding.

If the conflicts in your married life are because of ego, you should give away the ego and take an initiative to resolve the problems. Self-assessment is a very important step to save your marriage. Think about your mistakes and drawbacks and try to improve your behavior and avoid the things that may hurt your partner.

If you are determined to remain with your spouse forever and worried about how to save a Christian marriage, then you should opt for some changes in your behavior. If the problems in your married life are because of lack of communication, start to develop good communication between you and your partner. You should spend some time with each other and go for outing. You should express an intense passion for your partner because if you are successful in developing love for each other, then other problems can be immediately solved.

Infidelity is strictly prohibited in Christian marriage. You should avoid the extra-marital affair, if how to save a Christian marriage is your query. You should be very honest with your spouse and should completely trust him/her. If your partner is abusive, try to understand him/her and understand the causes of misbehavior of your spouse and find out the solutions for that.

If you are not able to resolve the problems, then you may seek advice from your friends, family or religious leader. Christianity as a religion preaches fidelity and if necessary you can take the help of religious leaders from the church to counsel you or your spouse about what the bible has to say. This is one of the best ways on how to save a Christian marriage. You may offer the prayers to the God to save your marriage.

Many couples prefer to participate in marriage counseling which can help the couples to improve their communication skills, find out their differences and clear all misunderstandings.

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